How to have
harmonious and smooth interactions with others?
I like my
interactions with others to be harmonious and smooth. Send = receive, so I am
aware I’ve got to start with being harmonious and smooth myself. But how do I
maintain that state of being in ‘tricky’ situations? Especially whit the
addition that I want to be ‘true to myself’! Harmonious and smooth with taking
my own needs into account as well!
I found on the internet something that I found very useful, a list of assertive rights. Useful to be aware of for myself, obviously. But, equally important... other people have these rights as well.
I have got the right as an individual to express my needs and to make my own priorities, regardless of the roles I fulfill in my life.
I have got the right to be treated with respect, as an intelligent, competent and equal person.
I have got the right to express my feelings
I found on the internet something that I found very useful, a list of assertive rights. Useful to be aware of for myself, obviously. But, equally important... other people have these rights as well.
I have got the right as an individual to express my needs and to make my own priorities, regardless of the roles I fulfill in my life.
I have got the right to be treated with respect, as an intelligent, competent and equal person.
I have got the right to express my feelings
I have got the right to express my values.
I can choose to tell my opinion, but it means also the right to choose not to tell it! If it's opposite of someone else opinion, it is basically just a different way of looking at it.
I have got the right to say 'yes' or 'no' .
I have got the right to make mistakes
realize: you can DO something 'wrong' but that doesn't make YOU wrong.
I have got the right to change my mind
I can always go back to what I want and mention that, instead of what I thought was expected of me.
I have got the right to say that I don't understand something.
I can choose to tell my opinion, but it means also the right to choose not to tell it! If it's opposite of someone else opinion, it is basically just a different way of looking at it.
I have got the right to say 'yes' or 'no' .
I have got the right to make mistakes
realize: you can DO something 'wrong' but that doesn't make YOU wrong.
I have got the right to change my mind
I can always go back to what I want and mention that, instead of what I thought was expected of me.
I have got the right to say that I don't understand something.
I have got the right to ask for what I want.
Sounds simple, but the hardest part is to do so when there is a conflict with the wishes or expectations of the other person.
I have the right to put aside the responsibility for someone else’s problems.
So, I can choose to care for someone and help him to sort his problems, but if that means setting aside to many of my own needs, I am free to draw a line.
Sounds simple, but the hardest part is to do so when there is a conflict with the wishes or expectations of the other person.
I have the right to put aside the responsibility for someone else’s problems.
So, I can choose to care for someone and help him to sort his problems, but if that means setting aside to many of my own needs, I am free to draw a line.
I have got the right to interact with other people, independent of their approval.
This one is taking me a lot of courage, by the way!
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