HOLIDAY IN EVERY DAY PART I/II

As twin souls, Richard and I often find ourselves  approaching the same issue from opposite angles.

‘ Me-time’ is a recurring theme in our lives.

I almost fell off the scale in recent times, with so much me-time, that I got tangled up in it, finding my days long, boring and unfulfilling.
Richard almost fell of the scale, with so little me-time, that he got tangled up in it, finding his days full on, boring and unfulfilling.

I highly appreciate a certain amount of me-time in every day. To me it’s just as important for my health as breathing air, eating food and drinking tea.  In me-time, I let my attention drift on the topics  in my mind. Picture me, on a sunny warm day in the shade of a beautiful tree, or in the evening in a warm bath. Or, picture me performing  a ‘ simple task’  like cleaning or weeding. I don’t need to pay much attention to what I am doing with my hands, I can just let the wind blow through my brain. The key ingredients:  me, myself and I, minding my own business.

Richard has made resolutions on creating me-time in every day. However, it is very often the first thing that flies out of the window, in the course of the day.

I can tell it frustrates him that there always seems to be a list of things to do before he feels he can take time to do something he feels he needs for himself.  Especially when the things he has to do, don’t go according to plan and consume far more time than expected.

He also finds himself, to his own frustration, ‘ wasting time’ dreaming about going away in a motor home to excitingly new and vibrant places . He feels he can’t actually go away in a motor home right now, because the house needs his presence to be rented out, looked after and be sold this summer.

One evening inspiration struck me when I was thinking about all the remarks he expressed that day and  his struggle to deal with it all. What if something deep within him is in fact signalling to him that he really needs more dedicated and appreciated me-time during the course of the day? It felt to me a promising angle to investigate.

I shared my thoughts with him, suggesting that it might be an idea to follow his own advice, every day , by  going away in a motor home to an exciting new and vibrant place. I saw a way to do that,  respecting the commitment to be here as well!

How?

The commitment to look after the house, leaves room for many activities. He spends at least 10 hours a day with activities that his body requests, like sleeping, eating, showering....
Wouldn’t it be nice to give the mind a break during waking hours, to compensate for all the information it needs to take in and process constantly?

There can be a mini-holiday in every day, to recharge!

Loving motor home travel, Richard can decide to take himself off for 20 minutes to a quiet comfortable place. He can follow his intuition on the type of motor home he should drive that day and to which destination. Using his imagination, he then can experience whatever he wants, whether it is peaceful and calm, or vibrantly exciting. His mind-holiday can be first class travel, without investing any money! 

Does a mind-holiday rebalance and re-energize? Is it possible that the challenges in everyday life can be dealt with at higher speed and with more of the required attention, with more fun, confidence and happiness?

Let’s see what happens......

To be continued in part II